Shhhh… ould we talk about “it”?
April is couples appreciation month. Breast cancer can be hard on couples. Why? Well, lots of reasons, but the one we often don’t talk about is sex.
Sex is an important part of the relationship between couples… one that can suffer from the effects of breast cancer and cancer treatment.
So let’s break it down a little. Here are 3 to think about.
Breast cancer and breast cancer treatment are exhausting, both physically and mentally.
Breasts are part of a woman’s sexuality. Breast cancer treatment typically involves surgery that either scars or removes the breasts thus decreasing the sensual, sexual, response of the breasts. There can also be emotional reactions to breast surgery that impact one of both partners emotionally.
The most common form of breast cancer is hormone receptor positive. This means that the cancer feeds on hormones so part of the treatment is to block the hormones. Without hormones, women develop menopausal symptoms like vaginal dryness and lack of libido. These symptoms are treatable.
If you (or someone you know) suffers from any of the sexual effects of breast cancer or cancer treatment, do your relationship a favor, break the silence. Talk to your provider. Some issues can be treated medically. Others may require and experienced sex therapist to help discover new forms of excitement.
Ignoring the problem will not make it go away. Both partners will suffer. The relationship will suffer. Break the silence and enjoy your relationship. Show your appreciation for your partner by seeking the care you need.